Sweet Potato Shepherd’s Pie

This is not my photo but one of the only ones with sweet potato, this recipe is also amazing!

Now that the world is ending I’m certain there are many of you at home who need to start cooking but have no idea where to start. I was the same way when I first moved out on my own but I promise, cooking and creating recipes is not as difficult and scary as you think it is.

This recipe was literally a last minute throw together with things I needed to use and had lying around the house and honestly, that’s how a lot of my recipes come to be. I start with what I want and then make adjustments for what I have. This recipe is a pretty easy and quick one to just toss together if you’re tired or low on ingredients.


1lb of ground beef

4 large sweet potatoes

1/2 yellow or white onion diced

6 tbsp of butter

1/4 cup of flour

1-2 cups of milk

1 cup of shredded cheddar cheese

1 cup of frozen mixed veggies

4-6 cloves of minced garlic

Caraway seeds (to taste)

Salt and Pepper (to taste)

Cayenne pepper (to taste)

1. Traditionally, Shepard’s Pie is made with ground lamb, regular potatoes and gravy but I had none of those ingredients so I improvised with sweet potatoes, and creamed ground beef instead of gravy and ground lamb. Making sure your potatoes are soft enough to mash is probably the one thing that takes the most time so that’s what I got started on first. To speed up this process, make sure to chop your sweet potatoes into smaller chunks and add a little salt to the water and boil them for about 15 minutes.

2. While your potatoes are going, preheat your oven to 375 and get started on the creamed beef by first browning your ground beef. If you aren’t using lean meat you may need to drain your meat before proceeding. Basically, you don’t want a whole lot of grease and beef liquid in the pan or the creamed part won’t come out right so use your best judgement. Once your beef is mostly browned, add your caraway, onion and garlic and cook until fragrant – about 2-5 minutes – adding 2 tbsp of butter at this time.

3. Once your onion and garlic are fragrant add the remaining butter and melt down then sprinkle a good amount of flour over the beef and butter, whisking or stirring frequently. You should start to see the flour and butter crumble up within in the pan, if not, keep adding flour and stirring until you do.

4. Now that you have your flour chunks in the pan cook for a minute or two longer and then start slowly pouring and stirring in the milk. I used 2% Lactaid but you could use whole milk if you prefer. It is very important that you slowly mix the milk into the mixture so that the flour and butter will incorporate correctly and give you a nice cream sauce not a chunky, flour mix. Keep adding milk until the sauce is the consistency you want. I added almost 1 full cup of milk because I wanted extra sauce to cook into the potatoes, but you don’t have to do that if you don’t want.

5. Your sweet potatoes, by now, should be soft enough to drain and mash. Add about 2 tbsp of butter and a few splashes of milk while you mash your sweet potatoes so that they have a velvety and smooth texture. Add salt, pepper and cayenne pepper to taste.

6. Find a baking dish and spray with non-stick spray then line the bottom with sweet potatoes, defrost your veggies in a bowl draining excess water and add on top of the sweet potatoes, then add your creamed beef, top with remaining sweet potatoes and cheddar cheese. Place in oven for 7 minutes then broil on high for 3 minutes or until cheese is bubbly and golden, remove and enjoy!

And that is it! This recipe is really a very simple one to just toss together with whatever you have in the house! I hope you enjoy this and let me know if you make this and what you thought!

Easy Lo-Carb Carbonara

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Here’s the thing about carbonaras, they’re easy to make but everyone over complicates it. This recipe is so easy that if you’re broke, tired, haven’t been to the grocery store in a while or maybe you’re just a terrible cook … you can still make it. Granted you have the necessary ingredients of course.

My only words of advice and caution are to constantly toss your pasta or spaghetti squash while pouring in your sauce mixture. This is very important because if you don’t the egg inside the sauce will literally begin to cook and you’ll have scrambled eggs. You don’t want that so keep that pasta moving! Also, towards the end of the recipe I would recommend taking your food off the heat about two minutes prior to pouring in your sauce mix so the pan and pasta or squash isn’t so hot that it does begin to cook the egg. I’ve found that the residual heat from all the cooking you’ve done prior to this step is more than enough to cook the sauce. Oh, one more thing, if you do choose to use squash you will need a thickening agent for the sauce so a combination of 1/4 cup of water, dash of salt and 2 tablespoons of cornstarch will give you the same consistency as pasta water just make sure to mix it well. And that’s it! So happy cooking and let me know how you like this recipe!


  • 1 large spaghetti squash or 2 cups of low carb pasta of your choosing
  • 2 large egg yolks
  • 1/2 cup of shredded parmesan cheese
  • 4 cloves of chopped or minced garlic
  • 2 cups of pancetta or thick cut bacon cut into small-medium sized bits
  • 1 tablespoon of butter
  • 4 teaspoons salt and pepper or to taste 


  • Preheat oven to 375, cut spaghetti squash in half and lightly cover all surface area with melted butter or olive oil, salt and pepper to taste. Cook until tender about 13-20 minutes or cook pasta as instructed
  • Slice bacon or pancetta into small-medium pieces and cook over medium heat in a large pot with butter until tender but not crispy, drain leaving some grease in pot
  • Return meat to pot and add garlic cooking on low heat until garlic is fragrant, about 5 minutes, turn off heat
  • Once spaghetti squash is cooked remove from oven and shred with two forks or strain pasta reserving 1/4 cup of pasta water
  • Put spaghetti squash on cheese cloth or paper towel and squeeze out excess water
  • Place pasta or squash into large pot with meat and garlic, toss to coat evenly
  • Combine egg yolk and about 4 tablespoons of parmesan and 1 tablespoon of pasta water or cornstarch slurry, mix well
  • Slowly add the egg and cheese mixture to pasta or squash tossing constantly
  • Add more pasta water, cornstarch slurry or parmesan cheese until sauce is how you want
  • Season with salt and pepper to taste, top with parmesan, bacon or pancetta and serve

That’s it guys, it’s really that simple and honestly the thing that takes the longest is cooking the spaghetti squash if you choose to use that. This sauce can be used on regular pasta too, it’s just a simple carbonara sauce so use it whenever and use it often!

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Resume Tips for a 2020 Job Hunt

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Honesty moment. I was let go, for the first time, recently. It was difficult to come to terms with but 20/20 hindsight (see what I did there) it was for the better and from what I’m hearing, I’m very glad my manager made the decision for me.

Since then, I’ve been taking time to figure what I really want to do. I’ve jumped from job to job, trying to find the right place and even at Massge Envy, the place where it all started, I was extremely unsatisfied. The best part about the job was being the leader and my staff. I loved building my team and refining the skills in my team for them to be successful, coaching my sales associates on best practices and seeing them reach goal after goal. But I wasn’t happy; I wasn’t fulfilled. There were days of course where I said that I loved my job but at the end of the day, it wasn’t going to be my end career.

I’ve had some time to explore all different types of jobs out there and I’ve had to adjust how I approach my job search. Namely, I’ve had to update my resume and figure out what types of resumes work for certain jobs.

So keep reading for my 6 resume tips for 2020!

Cauliflower Detox Soup


This recipe just recently saved myself and my boyfriend from the flu and I can’t take any responsibility for it. It combines the detoxing power of onion and garlic to totally flush out your system while tasting totally awesome!

I won’t say this is the quickest recipe, depending on how fancy you want to get with it and if you don’t like garlic or onion I’m not entirely sure what to tell you because you will be Vampire free for at least three days after eating this soup. It does pair nicely with a grilled cheese or falafel.

So I’ll give you the rundown but if you want the full recipe head over to Neurotic Mommy! She has a ton of great recipes from vegan to keto and everything in between! Plus, if you’re looking for more natural ways to prevent the cold and flu, check out her article on using onions to do just this! I love all her great ideas for a lot of things but particularly her cold and flu remedies are the real deal!

So here we go! I used frozen cauliflower for my soup, I used two bags steamed in the microwave, I used half of an onion; 1/4 of a red and 1/4 of a white onion, two full heads of garlic; one I roasted in the oven in olive oil for about 45 minutes first to make the garlic less spicy, I added fresh thyme and oregano, Turmeric, juice from 3 lemons, ginger, salt and pepper to taste.

You might be looking at that list and thinking that it’s not very extensive but this is the holy grail. If you have time to cut and prep everything ahead of time, it’ll save you a lot of time. That is for sure what took me the longest; it felt like everytime I had finished chopping something … I had to do more. For sure, if you want to roast some of your garlic, start that first and get it going so it’s ready when everything else is. To do this, remove all the loose papery skin from your garlic and then chop the top off, drizzle olive oil over the top and place in an aluminum foil tent and put in the oven. I put mine in for 45 minutes at 400 which gives me plenty of time to do everything else while that roasts to perfection.

Next, get your onion and other garlic ready. You can add more or less onion and garlic depending on your preferences. Like I said before, I used half an onion total, 1/4 of red and 1/4 of white but you can use only red, only white or only yellow it really doesn’t matter. Then chop up your thyme and oregano, again, you don’t have to use these but oregano has some healing properties and the thyme gives your soup a nice flavor too. This part for sure took me the longest. Once you have all that done, add them to a blender with about a cup of chicken or veggie stock and blend it up until smooth and then pour the mixture into a medium-sized pot and let that simmer on medium-low heat for a while. Then around this time your garlic in the oven should be pretty much done, it’s ok if it’s not totally done, but you’ll add that to your blender with your cauliflower and lemon juice and a little more broth, about half a cup, and blend it all up and add that to your pot and mix it all together. I blend my soup in bathes to make sure everything is blended smoothly and evenly. If you have one of those fancy wand mixer things, you can just add everything to your pan and use that to mix everything up.

So once everything is in my pot, I let it simmer for about 10 minutes just to make sure it’s heated all the way through and all the great flavors have time to marinate and mix. At this point you can add the salt and pepper to taste and turmeric. I did add a little heavy cream to mine as well to make it a little thicker and to lighten the color a bit.

I topped mine with sauteed onion and mushrooms, fresh thyme and oregano and fresh cracked pepper and seared flank steak for extra protein. It’s a strong soup and you’ll feel like you need to brush your teeth 100 times after eating this, but if you make it early enough into getting sick, it will wipe your system clean.

Don’t forget to head over to Neurotic Mommy for the full recipe!

Uncoachable Kids from A Coach’s Perspective

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Lately, I’ve been seeing videos of unruly children. Not unruly, uncivil and ill-mannered is a better way to put it and I feel really bad for the children in these situations. Their parents have failed them and now, they’re on the internet making fools of themselves and will have a very hard time in their future. One such video I saw this morning, a teenage boy about 15 smashed his phone and threw it in the pool simply because he wanted the newest iPhone and his mom refused because the phone he had worked perfectly.

This type of behavior is rampant in kids now. And I can’t blame the parents fully, however, in most of these videos the parents do not stand up their kids. They hush them, try to talk low and quiet to get them to calm down, appease them or make excuses for them but that’s allowing that behavior to continue. For what? Because you don’t want family dinner to be awkward? It’s really appalling and then when the other people around take action, they’re they villain.

“Uncoachable kids become unemployable adults. Let your kid get used to somebody being tough on them. That’s life, get over it!” – Patrick Murphy, Alabama Softball

I don’t want to seem preachy or out of line but from being on the receiving and observing end as a coach, here’s the issue with this. These kids are allowed to behave in such a poor manner with no discipline that when they get out into the real world, they fail. Why? Well, they don’t know how to behave in society. Or they become bullies and the only success they see is because they forced their way into it likely by acting the way they always have and people gave them what they wanted to shut them up. They get jobs but can’t keep them very long because they mouth off to their boss or a customer and get fired then, they throw a fit and blame everyone else except their own behavior because they were never taught accountability.

The other issue, parents are putting their kids above anything else. This tells that child that their needs and their desires come before anyone else’s and that will carry over to their real world interactions. Love your kids, cherish them, protect them but they need to know that are other things and other people more important than them. They need to know their time and place. I grew up on a farm and was raised that I don’t get fed until the animals do, why? It’s teaching discipline, responsibility and accountability. I understood that those animals depended on me to live and not that their lives were more important than mine, but held the same value and so I was humbled early-on and learned to respect the lives around me.

This is not the best example because not everyone will have that experience but this can be taught in many ways with regard to many other situations. For instance, the issue with the iPhone example. This mother was one of the few that actually stood up to her kid but that whole ordeal could’ve probably been avoided had he not been given whatever he wanted at a younger age. By this I mean, when he was old enough to get his first phone, you don’t just hand him the newest one. I never did, my parents got the upgrades and the new phones and my siblings got their phones. We got what we got and we didn’t throw a fit.

So how do we curtail this issue? Well in this day and age, it’s really hard because the people who are supposed to be teaching real life skills and discipline, and manners, outside the home, are being made out to be the bad guys. Who are they? Coaches, teachers, mentors, other adults … anyone who challenges the child and their behavior is the bad guy while the parents just sit back and tell Junior to calm down. The parents lack of accountability for their kid’s behavior and actions makes it harder to teach them anything and the parents almost never have the other parties side either. If your kid is failing a class, it’s not necessarily the teachers fault, sure it can be but what is your kid doing in class? Do they behave and participate? Are they doing their homework? Are they showing up? These are things parents tend to ignore and just take the kid’s word as gold and go in both barrels loaded to have a parent teacher conference and basically attack the teacher under the guise that they suck at their job instead of finding the root cause. You’re not helping your child by allowing them to act out and by fighting their battles for them and by taking their side all the time. It’s a tough place to be in as a parent, I can understand that, but your child’s success depends on how they’re raised and if you’re not willing to do it then someone else has to.

I used to coach volleyball and I loved it, I thought it was going to be my passion and career but my last two seasons coaching were the worst experiences of my life and basically forced me to stop. I’ve meant to go back but now I have my reservations. I had a decent team of 12 and 13-year old girls, all very sweet and I enjoyed them very much. When you play sports, there’s consequences for under-performing, not showing up to practices, missing games, conditioning …. it is a sport after all. Anyways, one of the girls had missed nearly 4 practices before our first tournament and the team I coached for had it in their player contract, that for every missed practice the child would sit out a set in the following tournament. So she did, and her parents were on the sidelines the entire first match with me yelling at me while I should’ve been coaching my team because she wasn’t going to be playing until the last match due to her attendance. My issues were also exclusively with parents too so I think I was lucky in that regard. I only dealt with one really disrespectful kid who refused to partake in drills she didn’t like, never did any of the conditioning and started issues on the team.

What does the child gain from this? Nothing. Her parents showed her that mommy and daddy would fight her battles for her, that there is no consequences for her actions and that even though she broke the rules it didn’t matter. She and her parents were missing the point and she missed out on her first real life lesson.

Kids need boundaries and they need rules and they need parents. Have a great relationship with your children but know where to draw the line between friend and parent. It’s just like owning or running a business but being friends with some of the people that work there. It’s still your responsibility to know when to draw that line and to hold them accountable. Both of which make coachable humans.

How did you learn the skills you have? I bet your parents helped teach you as well as any other adult in charge that helped shape and mold you. My coaches taught me more about how to behave but still be intense and get what I want but if parents aren’t allowing teachers, coaches and mentors to teach … and these things aren’t being taught at home? What kind of child are you producing for this world? I don’t want to give parenting advice, I’m not a parent but this is my opinion from being on the receiving end. I wish parents would understand how much harder they’re making things on their kids when they don’t hold them accountable for their actions and behaviors and won’t allow teachers and coaches to do their jobs. It takes a village to raise a human being, so why villainize those who can help?

Ramen Made Easy


Getting creative with junk food and making it into an actual meal is something I love to do and coming up with awesome ramen recipes is so fun. Ramen gives you a lot of freedom to make it your own but regardless, it’s going to be way better than the regular stuff.

This isn’t the healthiest recipe and to be honest, I’m not sure how you would go about making this keto friendly since the keto noodle recipes I’ve found don’t hold up too well in the hot broth. So, if you have any suggestions let me know and I’ll give it a try! However, this recipe will give you so many freedoms to swap stuff out so you can alter it to your preferences and diet and make it super delicious.

To begin, you’ll need 2-3 packets of ramen noodles, or however much you’ll need for the number of people you’re feeding. I usually use 3 because that gives me enough to feed two of us with a little left over. You’ll need veggies, meat, and seasonings of your choosing. If you choose to do soft-boiled eggs in your ramen, I recommend starting with this since the eggs will need to cool in an ice bath and you can use the water to start your broth too.


If you choose to do this, here are your instructions. I hate making soft-boiled eggs but I love them so much. I use enough water to just cover the eggs but leave a little extra space and add about a cup of white vinegar to the water and let it come to a boil. I use vinegar to boil my eggs because it makes the shell softer and easier to peel off … usually.

Also, make sure you get your ice water bath set up with enough time for the water to be as cold as possible. To accomplish this, get a bowl however big you need, and fill it about quarter-way with regular water then get some ice and dump in about 2 cups to drastically cool the water temp and then put the water in the freezer, if you have room, if not the fridge will do but try to get it as far away from the door as possible. The reason we’re setting this up now, is so that the water will be as cold as we can get it so the egg membrane will shrink away from the shell which will make peeling your eggs as easy as it can be.

Anyways, get your water and vinegar and get it on the heat. Once the water is boiling drop your eggs in gently and you’ll want to boil them for 5-7 minutes. Honestly, I would go a little on the longer side, 6-7 minutes, especially if you’re putting your eggs in one at a time to make sure they’re fully cooked. If they’re too soft peeling will be a pain regardless. About 1 minute before the eggs are done, get your water bath and put even more ice in it! About another cup and when your eggs are done, fully submerge the eggs in the ice water. Remember, as you add the eggs the water temp will rise so have ice on hand to keep the temp as cold as possible. If the water isn’t cold enough, the egg will stick to the shell and peeling will be pain. Once all your eggs are in the water, shove them back into the fridge or freezer until you’re done.


Now, on to the fun part. Figure out what veggies and type of broth you want to include. I love adding mushrooms, broccoli, chives and fresh onion to my ramen and I like to just get creative with the broth; one of the best things about this recipe. Put some water in a pot but not too much, you want about a fingers length deep of water for now and turn the heat on medium. Add the veggies you want to boil, for me it’s usually mushrooms and broccoli maybe some squash or zucchini, and just leave it all to cook. You could add anything here though; jalapenos, carrots, potatoes if you wanted, just make sure to boil them long enough so they’re soft or to the texture of your liking. You may need to add more water depending on the amount of veggies you add in, you want them to be mostly covered.

You can add fresh or powdered seasoning, of course fresh is better but either is fine! I love to add a healthy dose of ginger and garlic to my broth, about 1 tablespoon if fresh, 2 if powdered, 2 teaspoons of cloves or allspice, 1 tablespoon of Turmeric, 1 teaspoon of sesame oil, soy sauce and hoisin or oyster sauce to taste. You can also add a little bouillon for extra flavor or simply use some of the sauce packets that come with the ramen. At some point you will want to add a little salt but I would wait until the very end to do this so you don’t over-salt the broth. If you want go simple, use a miso soup base for your broth and then season to taste!

Once you have your broth set up however you want, leave the veggies and water to simmer on medium heat and get started on your meat. I love to use stir-fry cut meat but you could do shrimp or even tofu if you wanted. I like to cook my red meat and fish separately but if you wanted to do shrimp or crawfish, just add that to your broth to cook! If you choose to use red meat, I don’t cook it fully, usually I will season and sear it that way when I add it to the broth, the hot water will continue to cook it thoroughly.

If you want to use tofu, you have a few options to prep it but make sure you use extra firm tofu and press it for at least an hour to get all the water out of it. If there’s too much water in the tofu or if it’s softer tofu, when you add it to the broth it will basically disintegrate. Pan frying the tofu before cooking gives a nice flavor and texture and can prevent it from falling apart in the broth. You could also freeze the tofu while pressing and then add the frozen tofu to the broth during the last 2 minutes of cooking.

Once the broth water begins to lightly boil, add the noodles and a little extra water to mostly cover the noodles and veggies. Once you have the extra water in, turn the heat up a little more and let the water come to a boil for about 3 minutes. You don’t have to fully cover the noodles just make sure you have enough water so that when it begins to boil you have enough to boil off without burning the broth. Make sure to stir occasionally to ensure everything is evenly cooked. Once done, take the broth off the heat and let rest before serving.

Serve It Up

Once you’re satisfied with your broth and the texture of your veggies, you’re ready to serve! I love to top my ramen with the soft-boiled eggs, fresh cut red onion, green onion, Sriracha and some sesame seeds (if I’m feeling extra).

This is one my favorite things to make simply because I can do whatever I want with it and each time I make it it’s a little different. So just keep tweaking the recipe until you find what you love.

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Motivation vs. Discipline: What’s the big deal

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Motivation and discipline go hand in hand when it comes to achieving success but are very inherently different in application. People who are motivated are the best to be around, they always seem to be in an upbeat mood and are always encouraging others to do better but what if I told you that person was living a lie? Motivation is fine and dandy but takes so much energy to obtain and maintain where as having discipline means you do whatever you have to do, no matter what and that mentality will get you far further in life.

So let’s break that down. Motivation is the procrastinators worst enemy and is the worst enemy of anyone trying to accomplish a large task that they maybe don’t want to. There’s the key right there, it’s something they don’t want to do in the first so they have to talk themselves into doing it. However, more often than not, you end up talking yourself out of things. I’m super guilty of this; presented with a larger than normal task and instead of buckling down to do it, I make excuses as to why I can’t do it yet and eventually talk myself out of whatever I was doing. Motivation is good to get you going but once you’re motivated to do something, turn that into discipline to actually get it done.

Motivation is a waiting game, to put it simply. You’re waiting for the conditions to be right in order to complete whatever task you needed to complete and that will always lead to failure or procrastination. Motivation requires you to rely on it, to be dependent on your ability to talk yourself into doing things but no offense, some of us aren’t very good motivators.

So how do you go from, “I can’t do that now” to just doing it no matter what? Well, it won’t be easy. You’re going to have to train yourself to have self-discipline and just like anything, this will take daily practice and mindfulness to master.

The first thing to do is to stop reading about motivation. It’s a fallacy that people have made millions of dollars off of and it’s sickening because motivation means nothing. I know people who everyday say, “Tomorrow’s the day, I’m going to wake up early and go the gym!” but when the day comes, their motivation has gone and they no longer want to do those things and they’re not disciplined to do it anyways. So why read about something that won’t help you? Because we’re told to believe that motivation is the key to success, but it’s not self-discipline is. Motivation comes and goes and is easy to talk yourself out of but discipline requires mindfulness and accountability.

Second, you need to know your weaknesses and what may tempt you because knowing yourself first, is key to mastering self-discipline. My biggest weakness, is sleeping. I would skip my own funeral to take a nap. Recognizing your weaknesses and temptations will help you plan for them so that you won’t have to compromise your progress. One thing I do that helps me get out of bed faster, especially when all I want to do is sleep, I take my cat’s food up at night. Why? Because every day around 6am she will inevitably wake me up to feed her and because this furry little creature depends on me, it forces me to get up anyways. It motivates me to get up sure, but I have to make the choice to get up so that she doesn’t go hungry, I have to be disciplined enough to get up and feed her instead of saying, “She can wait one or two more hours”. Once I’m up, I try to be mindful and make the decision to stay up by making a smoothie, some food or drinking some ice cold water because if I allow myself to go back to sleep, I’ll lose that progress. I also use a lot of caffeine to get myself going, Genius Caffeine is my saviour on those mornings that I really don’t want to be up. It gives me a good amount of energy but I don’t get the jitters or the crash like with other caffeine products or energy drinks. So once you know your weaknesses and temptations, make a plan to overcome them and then make another plan in case you fail, both that are simple enough you won’t have to think twice about it but matters enough that you will do it no matter what.

This one ties right in with the last. Set small goals that will accumulate to a much larger accomplishment. This is a great tool to use with any large project or any task that seems overwhelming. Break it down into bite sized pieces, accomplish one at a time and in no time, you’ll have completed the whole thing. Mastering self-discipline is no different. Because this skill takes constant practice and mindfulness, at times it can be quite draining to acquire so breaking your self-discipline goals down into bite sized pieces will help you be more successful and will feel much more rewarding. For instance, you want to be more disciplined and not eat after 9pm. Seems easy but trust me, it’s tough. One way to break down this goal is to set a bedtime and a cutoff time. Let’s say your normal bedtime is 12am, let’s keep that and set the cutoff time for 10pm, just two hours with no food. You’re successful with this for one full week so you keep your bedtime at 12am but you push your cutoff time back 30-minutes to 930pm. You nail this one for another week, so you take your cutoff time back another 30-minutes to 9pm and you kill it and now you’ve created a new habit! What we did here is change only one thing to keep it simple, the cutoff time for eating, if you try to change too much too soon, you will fail regardless. Remember, it takes about 40,000 repetitions of something to really create a habit, and about 100,000 to correct the habit so replacing your old habit with a new one is far easier than trying to correct your old habit.

 Expect and accept failure, just don't let it control you. 

Now, in the event that you fail, it’s not that it’s no big deal but be mindful and try to figure out and understand why you failed; Did you not eat enough during the day? Did you eat dinner while watching something or being distracted? Are you properly hydrated? All things you can ask yourself with regard to the above example, but once you identify why you failed, be disciplined enough to start fresh right away; don’t, “wait for tomorrow”. So you mess up and eat cereal at 10pm, oops. Acknowledge you messed up, take accountability for your actions and make a plan so you will stop eating that night and won’t fail again tomorrow. Remember, failure is part of progress, if we don’t fail we don’t learn and if we’re not learning, we’re not trying. Expect and accept failure, just don’t let it control you. The most successful people take their failures and grow from them so they don’t make the same mistake again.

Lastly, change your perception of willpower and discipline. You have to believe you have the willpower to make the right choices and the discipline to make the right choice even if you’re willpower fails. If you’re walking down the candy aisle and excuse your lack of discipline for lack of willpower you will never be able to achieve a high-level of discipline. Willpower turns to discipline when practiced enough so instead, acknowledge that you want the candy but then also acknowledge that you’re strong and are disciplined with willpower so your forego the candy and set a future reward for not giving in now. For instance, tell yourself that if you can not eat after 9pm for a whole week, you’ll reward yourself with candy. Positive reinforcement and reward will make achieving your goals and acquiring the skill of self-discipline much easier. If there’s nothing to look forward to, there’s no motivator for doing something.

Thank you for tuning in today and I really hope this helps someone out there. I know I’ve struggled with discpline so just know, you’re not alone.

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